Women have come along way since the times where we were expected to stay at home and raise the family and manage the household. Today many women like you and I, are married with full time jobs as well as kids.
The sad thing is that some men think that it is still the woman's job to care for the home as well as the kids. Women, who work all day at their full time jobs, do not want to come home to having to start another fulltime job before they get to sit and relax after their long day.
Many men still expect women to carry the brunt of the child rearing as well as managing the household. This includes preparing and cleaning up the meals, washing, drying and putting away the clothes as well as cleaning the home and the kids.
There is no reason a woman should have to live the life of three people when she has a full plate. You can live the life you want by simply enlisting the help of your dear husband as well as the kids to do their fare share of the household chores.
Dome men do not respond well to women complaining that they never get help around the house. This generally causes animosity and rebellion where they are concerned.
Many women have found that by taking a different approach all together, rendered better responses when trying to get their men to help out around the house.
Men and women think about things in different ways so when you ask him to help it may mean something completely different to him then it does to you.
Men need to hear praises and will respond better if approached with something like this: "Honey, It really helped me out a lot when you helped me with the dishes the other night. Can you help me with them quick, so we can spend some time alone without the kids?"
Most chances are he will jump on the job. You let him know that he did a great job, and you told him there would be a reward at the end (time alone). If you had said something like, "I need you to do the dishes because I am tired."
Chances are you may get the response "why don't you wait till tomorrow when you have had some rest?"
There is another approach that you can take that involves the whole family. Write all of the chores that need to be done on a weekly basis, each on their own piece of paper. Fold them all up and put them into a bowl.
You can then have each family member choose from the bowl as to what shores they will get to do. You can make one day a week chore day so it doesn't take up everyone's free time.
You can also add a bonus on there as well. Something like, the one who gets the most chores done, correctly and the fastest then they get an extra $5 in their allowance. This is a sure fire way to have everything done in no time at all.
