Mothers all over the world find that they just can't seem to get along with their teenage daughters. Most moms do not realize this and they often feel like they are doing something wrong as a mother.
Your once loving daughter now looks for ways to show you another way you have failed her as a mother. Believe it or not this is a natural phase for her to go through.
Growing pains are not just pains a child feels as they grow. Their personality and independence also goes through growing pains.
For so many years they lived as a mirror image of their mother and had to deal with family and friends telling her "oh you remind me so much of your mother".
While these are great compliments when your daughter is younger, they can have the opposite effect when she gets to her teen years.
A teenage girl wants to know that she stands out for who she is not who she acts or looks like.
Parents have one of the hardest jobs teaching their children right from wrong and helping to mold them into responsible adults that will be able to take care of themselves. When a mother has to be the one to do the disciplining to her daughter it can create a barrier.
Most every teenage girl feels that her mother just doesn't understand her and there is no easy way to fix that. Thankfully there are a few tips that you can follow to help make her transition into adulthood and independent a bit easier on the both of you.
You need to remember that first and foremost, you are the parent but you do not have to in parent mode at all times. You can also be friends with your daughter keep in mind that you need to set some ground rules.
Let your daughter now that you will always be there for her and that she can come to you with anything. Your daughter needs to know that she can confide in you without having to worry about being in trouble for what she's about to tell you.
You need to learn to listen with an open mind taken what she's saying and then evaluate the situation afterwards. If you decide to get upset at the first sign of her confiding in you, then you can lose all of the ground that you worked so hard to get.
You need to keep an open policy with her, that no matter where she is, or what's going on, she can call you for help with no questions asked. Your daughter needs feel that she can trust you and that she can come to you with anything.
Yes there will be consequences to pay eventually but you will not rant and rave at her when she calls on you for help. You will be the one person for her that she can count on, in her time of need. Try to be open to her style of things.
Do not be so quick to judge her style of clothes, her style of music and her friends.
No matter how much you do not like to the things that she likes, you need to find some common ground where the two of you can enjoy some of the same things.
