Let's face it, when you have kids you have to make certain sacrifices such as your private time with your husband. Your priorities change and you can no longer have the privacy you once had back when you had fun trying to make those kids.
It is very important to keep the magic alive between you and your husband. You can add spice back into your sex life with some simple strategies.
Make sure to have a date night at least once a week. No need to worry about the cost if funds are low. Date night doesn't have to costly. You can simply plan an evening at home alone with no kids.
Hire a sitter or take the kids to grandmother's house to give you and your spouse a few hours alone. The point is to get the kids out of the house for a little while so you and your husband can reconnect.
You can surprise him by having the kids gone when he comes home. You can set the table with a romantic dinner for two complete with candles and you wearing something sexy. Have a bottle of wine chilling and greet him at the door. You can work this in a number of ways.
Just be sure to be attentive to each other as these totally alone times don't come too often.
If you can't find a sitter at night, then try meeting each other for lunch. If you live close enough to your home you can meet at home on lunch breaks to spice things up during the day.
It can give the effect that you are on a date and that alone can add something sexy to a relationship that is struggling to find some alone time.
Get away for a night. Ship the little one off to a friends house for the night or have a sitter spend the night at your house to watch the kids and get a hotel room. You can then do what you want when you want without having the worry of little eyes walking in on
you.
Most women fear that their children may catch them in an awkward moment and they tend to pull away from sex to avoid this confrontation.
You have to make time for your marriage or over time things can get bad. You have to learn to show attention to all of the family not just the kids.
Another way to make sure that you have some down time with hubby is to keep your room off limits to the kids at night. Let them know that they have their own bedrooms and that is where they sleep. So you can be sure to get some snuggling time in with your man.
Having a family is work and often times we find that at the end of the day we are just too tired but the reality of it is that by getting your sex life back you will find that you are more rested in the morning and you will see that you feel better overall.
